Compromise

how many women do you know have compromised on something that they really wanted or have compromised on a part about themselves?

i know i have done it--ESPECIAL when there is a guy involved

i every relationship thus far i have compromised my priories, time, emotion, and energy is someway or another to please this other person. Why? there is a multitude of answers to this question i cam sure but the ones i can think of is--i have to please this person to validate myself.

Where the FUCK did i learn this?! Cause I KNOW for a FACT that this is not what my mother has been telling me FOR SURE-- but i picked up this idea from somewhere

maybe it was from some institutions-like my elementary teacher that told me to run and get some paper towels from the bathroom to clean up this mess that a fellow male student had spilled in the hallway or my daycare that separated the girls from the boys--the girls were to stay inside to clean the tables and the boys were to go out and play

Why? It is just what we are supposed to do. It is what is expected of us. What hope do I have of finding a equal partner?

My mom learned it from her Grandmother--in old age, it doesn't really matter that much anymore. We have our separate beds our separate rooms our separate lives. I see my mother going through the same thing.

You have to do it now; you have to become your own person and your own best friend now she tells me. Learn from my mistakes. My mom is a wonderful teacher. She has been a great inspiration to me and I know the same is true for my brothers as well as her college students. This might sound weird only because I'm not quite sure how to word it but I hope with experience and knowledge that I have gained I will be able to return the inspiration

A wise woman once told me "Never Compromise First" -Allison Black 09